Doh!! Everyone knows this.
But when it comes to ourselves and our own past,
science is left behind, and we think like children.
‘He did that because he’s bad!’
‘So did she.’
‘He got that because he’s good.’
And we all know that ‘good things happen to ____ people’
This is madness, and it’s a leftover from how we were socialised as children (not advocating going feral, btw).
If Betty’s good, she gets candy because she deserves it. When Betty is bad, she has to sit on the naughty step (or be beaten mercilessly, depending on how fortunate Betty is in terms of where she was born and to whom).
Good = good stuff, and bad = bad stuff. If bad stuff is happening, I must be bad and vice versa.
But it’s nonsense, if bad stuff is happening, it’s because it was caused. Good/bad/deserving is installed so early on in our lives that we aren’t even aware we’re seeing the world through this lens. (Or that there’s another way of looking at things.)
The alternative is to apply science. Just as we would apply science to the question of why a tree branch came down, why water is heavier than ice and why cups fall off tables.
It was caused. And the causes were in already in place before what happened happened and therefore, it had to happen.
Seeing what happened as being caused, rather than happening because you or they are good or bad, is one of the most powerful concepts that drive the Rapid Resolution Therapy approach.
The proof of the pudding is in the eating
When Jon Connelly (Jon Connelly, PHD, MSW, LCSW
founder) worked with me and applied this concept to a situation that I had struggled with for many years, it finally cleared. After the session, I was skipping around my apartment – the energy that had been trapped in my thinking I was bad, faulty and should be ashamed was released.
What happened was caused, and because it was caused, it had to happen.
I’ve seen people released from years of pain by the use of this concept as part of the RRT process.
RRT is not a self-help technique – it’s a complex process, and you need a facilitator. But try this idea out and see if it works for you, better still, DM me to find out more.
