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It’s one of the most uncomfortable feelings.
It preoccupies us and it’s too stubborn to respond to our pleas for it to leave us alone.
Pictures of another person’s perfect, carefree life pop unbidden into our minds. We see a vision of joy and pleasure – but it’s theirs, not ours. Looking back at our own situation, we feel lacking and inadequate.
Or maybe it’s just me.
It’s made even more uncomfortable by the shame that often hops on for the ride. Most people I know would admit to depression long before they would confess their jealous feelings – especially when it’s towards friends and family.
𝙅𝙚𝙖𝙡𝙤𝙪𝙨𝙮. 𝙄𝙩’𝙨 𝙖 𝙡𝙤𝙣𝙜 𝙬𝙖𝙮 𝙛𝙧𝙤𝙢 𝙜𝙤𝙧𝙜𝙚𝙤𝙪𝙨.
This was my strategy to cope with it:
🐍 Keep it hidden because no one likes jealous people.
🐍 Keep it hidden because it shows that you can’t get what you want – that you lack something that’s important to you.
🐍 Keep it hidden, because we’ve told we must be grateful if we want a nice life, and jealousy is the opposite.
So no one wants it, but nearly everyone experiences it.
What can we do with it? First part is to deal with the feelings about the feeling.
I was in a therapist training class a few weeks back — and after a lot of trepidation — told the whole group that I had been feeling jealous. After I described the circumstances, it turns out that everyone knew exactly what I was talking about, and 90% admitted they would feel jealous too.
They also all said that they 𝘢𝘣𝘴𝘰𝘭𝘶𝘵𝘦𝘭𝘺 𝘩𝘢𝘵𝘦𝘥 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘸𝘢𝘺
☀️ This was such a relief. ☀️
Jealousy is just a passing feeling like all the others. It doesn’t mean anything about you. Animals get jealous and it doesn’t mean anything about them, either.
I am quite sure that it’s sticky and persistent because we go into battle with it – suppress it, hide it, and argue with it — and all this does is tighten its grip.
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